Remote therapy, parenting support, school liaison, from the convenience of your home or office

I specialise in working with people of mixed culture, suspected or diagnosed neurodivergence, or any other areas relating to identity or belonging including GSRD

I will give you a safe and confidential space, free of judgement, to explore whatever is difficult in your life, and to help you identify what you might want to change

Therapy & coaching sessions available to help support you, or your neurodivergent child or student

Remote or online counselling is a way for you to engage in counselling without the demands or stress of travel, and can be particularly helpful to those who experience sensory overload or have a demanding personal schedule.

I also offer coaching or consultancy sessions to parents and educators, to help you support your neurodivergent children and students.

I have full training and extensive experience in video, audio, and SMS therapy, as well as through email for those who may prefer no interruptions, a much slower pace, or who struggle with regular time commitments.

About me

Nina Shah Gestalt Counsellor Dip. MBACP (Accred.), Reiki Master Level 3

I am a British therapist who recently relocated to Stockholm, and I continue to work remotely with clients in the UK. 

My cultural backdrop is British Croatian by birth, and British Pakistani by marriage. I specialise in issues relating to feeling different for whatever reason, including mixed culture life, neurodivergence (ADHD, autism etc), the twin relationship, and gender, sexual and relationship diversity.

I am a UK-accredited Gestalt therapist with 30 years of experience in the fields of mental health and psychology.

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What score do you get? 

I always thought I was a picky eater (lots of criticism as a child), but I realise I'll eat most things, so long as they are prepared nicely e.g. not overboiled veggies. 

I got four. Though there are another 3-4 that have to be eaten a specific way e.g. cucumber with tuna or salmon mayo. Or celery only cooked. Or peas only in something like egg fried rice, not as a vegetable in its own right. And onions and garlic not raw (because that really hurts my mouth and makes me feel sick). As a child I was at least 29.

Side note – kid with ARFID got a score of 58 – sharing so you can see the severity of avoidance for kids with ARFID. It isn’t just being picky, it goes way beyond this. For our child it is her body's reaction to sensory overload, to having extremely sensitive senses. Quite a logical and understandable reaction when you realise how different her physical perceptions are.

#pickyeater #fussyeater #arfid Chart by @myarfidlife

What score do you get?

I always thought I was a picky eater (lots of criticism as a child), but I realise I`ll eat most things, so long as they are prepared nicely e.g. not overboiled veggies.

I got four. Though there are another 3-4 that have to be eaten a specific way e.g. cucumber with tuna or salmon mayo. Or celery only cooked. Or peas only in something like egg fried rice, not as a vegetable in its own right. And onions and garlic not raw (because that really hurts my mouth and makes me feel sick). As a child I was at least 29.

Side note – kid with ARFID got a score of 58 – sharing so you can see the severity of avoidance for kids with ARFID. It isn’t just being picky, it goes way beyond this. For our child it is her body`s reaction to sensory overload, to having extremely sensitive senses. Quite a logical and understandable reaction when you realise how different her physical perceptions are.

#pickyeater #fussyeater #arfid Chart by @myarfidlife
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I view anger as part of our body’s language – the way in which our body tells us that something is wrong and needs changing.

In our culture we often suppress our anger, denying ourself the experience – and the opportunity to change things for the better. We may feel it’s wrong to get angry; we may be afraid of a counter attack if we share our anger; or we may be afraid of our anger, we might worry it will harm or wound someone else, especially if we never observed older family members expressing anger appropriately.

When we learn to notice our ‘early’ anger signals, we can express it early, and this prevents explosions or shouting or aggression. Anger does not have to go hand in hand with aggression or violence. 

•	It can be expressed through words “I feel angry.”
•	Its source can be shared “You did not do something you promised you would do.” 
•	What impact the source had “Not keeping that promise added to my workload/made me feel uncared for or unloved/made me feel alone.” 

This slide suggests that our anger tells us when to walk away, and it absolutely can do, but it can also tell us when to try and fix something. I guess it comes down to that old prayer “grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

#anger #wisdom #change #walkaway #serenityprayer

I view anger as part of our body’s language – the way in which our body tells us that something is wrong and needs changing.

In our culture we often suppress our anger, denying ourself the experience – and the opportunity to change things for the better. We may feel it’s wrong to get angry; we may be afraid of a counter attack if we share our anger; or we may be afraid of our anger, we might worry it will harm or wound someone else, especially if we never observed older family members expressing anger appropriately.

When we learn to notice our ‘early’ anger signals, we can express it early, and this prevents explosions or shouting or aggression. Anger does not have to go hand in hand with aggression or violence.

• It can be expressed through words “I feel angry.”
• Its source can be shared “You did not do something you promised you would do.”
• What impact the source had “Not keeping that promise added to my workload/made me feel uncared for or unloved/made me feel alone.”

This slide suggests that our anger tells us when to walk away, and it absolutely can do, but it can also tell us when to try and fix something. I guess it comes down to that old prayer “grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

#anger #wisdom #change #walkaway #serenityprayer
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Wondering if this is helpful to anyone. Unfortunately I don't know the author.

#autisminwomen #autisminwomenandgirls #autisticgirls

Wondering if this is helpful to anyone. Unfortunately I don`t know the author.

#autisminwomen #autisminwomenandgirls #autisticgirls
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